Less Judging, More Loving

“A 15 year old girl holds hands with her 1-year-old son. People call her a “slut”; no one knows she was raped at age 14. People call another guy “fat”, no one knows he has a serious disease causing him to be overweight. People call an old man “ugly”; no one knows he experienced a serious injury to his face while fighting for our country in the war.”

I received this message a while back and it got me thinking, many are the times we find ourselves judging others simply by their appearances without considering where they have been or what they may have gone through in their lives. We end up making fun of these people and as I’ve come to realize most of the time we do this in order to feel better about ourselves. We mask our imperfections by pointing out those in others. We are often too quick to judge others even before we give them a chance to prove themselves while at the same time we get upset when people judge us. We don’t like it when people try to put us in a box yet we will gladly do the same to others.

We are all superficial people but we should not let that control our perspectives of the people around us or even the world. We lose out on good things because of judging people and situations before we have really gotten to know them. However (Insert Judge Ian’s tone), I believe that judging is not necessarily a bad thing, at times we need to trust our intuitions which may save us from scary circumstances. Personally, I can say that on several occasions my intuition has gotten me out of sticky situations.

All I’m saying is that we need to develop the ability to discern between situations or people and be able to make good judgments about them, if at all.

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Who would have thought; David would bring Goliath down with only a sling and a stone; Stevie Wonder would go on to become the musical genius he is today, A young BLACK, ‘handsome’ (yes, I said handsome) man with ears the size of a parachute would become the leader of the free world? We’ve got so many people we can look up to in the world who have made it despite their situations and their circumstances. In Africa, we have our very own Cobhams Asuquo who, despite his blindness has made a huge impact in the African music industry.

So how about today you give someone a chance to show you who they really are. Let us try to know people before we judge them. Before you put someone in a box at least give them the chance to prove themself. You never know, they could just surprise you.

Chris Brown once said: “Please don’t judge me and I won’t judge you. Cause it could get ugly before it gets beautiful”



Girl about town.

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2 thoughts on “Less Judging, More Loving

  1. i really liked the article because it reflects on what we do on a daily basis. we often find ourselves judging others while we would hate it if someone else does it to us. great read!!

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